The fallacy of choice in online addiction

There is a common sentiment that those with digital compulsions or internet addicts are actively choosing long term addiction. While I think an active thoughtful choice occured when they were first introduced to the addiction, their ability to choose and make the correct decisions corrodes and weaken over time and with increasing use.

I have counted hundreds of times where I ‘intended’ to read the news or a meme site for 10 minutes, but somehow became lost in a type of trance or hypnosis for an hour or more. Or similarly ‘intending’ to just watch one ‘how to video’ on youtube in the evening, and somehow it became the earlier hours of the morning when rechecking the time.

As a high school student and undergraduate student, I succumb to these extremes in my youth and severely berated myself afterwards when these digital binge and procrastination sessions caused real academic failures. Having studied the brain addictions over a decade in my own after-hours interest, and overcome the addiction, I know very definitively now, why internet applications, gaming and social media has such power over our brains. I want to make it clear that by the end of this article, online addictions and digital compulsions are not a symptom of ‘weak wills’ and ‘poor discipline’, and I detest the common but flawed idea that those who are suffering the consequences of internet addiction are deserved of their fate.

How does the internet hijack my brain?

1. Neuroplasticity

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Right on Jen.

Right on Jen. As you point out, the act of doing matters big time. It’s in the doing that we gain enough self-knowledge to understand how we work best.

Should you write in the early morning or midnight? Will it take five minutes to get in the groove or do you need an hour? Do you work well in a noisy environment or a quiet corner? There’s no way to understand what works best, unless we get to work.

Cheers!

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Stop Being Late

Stop Being Late

Seriously. Just stop.

For almost four years I have been chronically late to meetings, events, and pretty much 80% of all my commitments. Then last week I made a commitment to be 100% on time for all my meetings for the week.

Here’s what I learned:

When you are late and people say ‘that’s ok, I know how busy you are…’ it is not a good thing. What I was saying when I was chronically late was ‘I am more important than you and I value my time more than yours.’ You can’t lead teams of you don’t create a culture of respect.If you want to change, shift your mindset and re-commit. Consider my two alternatives ‘I am always late and that’s ok because I am so busy’ vs ‘I respect my team’s time and will be 100% on time for my commitments’. The first statement is about me and is ego driven. The second is about the team and performance driven. Once I made that shift, there was no turning back.Tell people about your commitments. Say it out loud, and call yourself out when you fail and share what you learned when you do.From a tactical perspective, some pointers:Limit your back to back meetings. When there was no choice on a back to back meeting I shifted the start time for the next one by five minutes. This was huge.Review locations. I made one mistake where I didn’t realize one meeting was a video call and spent ten minutes wandering around looking for the person.Don’t keep the meeting if you know there is no way you will be on time. Either find a different way to communicate (send a video, jot your thoughts down in a shared document) or re-schedule.Never make the same mistake twice. I was not perfect, but the three times I failed were three unique situations that I evaluated and changed my behavior so as to not repeat.

The performance of your team starts with you. Teams tolerate the behaviors that you deem acceptable through your action and in-action. If being late is your thing, you’re in control, make the shift and change your default.

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Health Concerns IT Experts Should Be Aware of

Every IT professional is bound to spend countless hours in front of the computer. Such sedentary routine, in turn, definitely has an effect on their health. From vision-related problems to high blood pressure, there are so many potential concerns you need to be aware of if you’re an IT expert, that ignoring them in the belief that they wouldn’t happen to you would seriously jeopardize your health.

Still, there must be something you can do to prevent such issues from aggravating and allow you to keep your lucrative job you’re so good at. Naturally, the answer is yes. This is not a situation where you have to choose between the job you like and your health. On the contrary, you can enjoy both, but only if you work on preventive measures in the right way and if you don’t turn a blind eye on any change in your health. Here are the most common health concerns and tips on preventing them as much as possible.

Neck problems

Most IT experts sit while working, but few do it properly and have their monitor at the right angle. Unfortunately, many feel neck pain sooner or later because their working environment is not designed properly. If, for example, the monitor level is too low, you’ll have to look down for a longer time and that will eventually lead to cervical spondylitis.

In order to prevent this from happening, you should have your monitor’s viewing angle above your neck level, so that you have to look up, instead of down, when using it. You can adjust your monitor height and viewing angle or simply adjust your chair. Also, you should make regular breaks during which you need to rotate your head a few times clockwise and anti-clockwise.

Heart problems

The more you work without moving much, the more prone you are to cardiac arrest. Couple that with the stress imposed by tight deadlines, not getting enough sleep and indulging in junk food and you’ll realize that this issue mustn’t be taken lightly. On the other hand, if you look around, you’ll surely see someone with these symptoms. So, don’t let that image be you when you look into the mirror.

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Becoming a better writer…

. №.1: Planning ( it doesn't have to be perfect)

Planning, it's not for everyone, certainly not for me. So why is it here? Because even though you may hate it, planning can be very helpful. Now I'm not talking plot planning, yes it can be useful, but my I myself get an idea and just write worry about the rest later, authors like Steven King do this as well. Character development. now I'm not asking you to go out and get a whole big list of questions for your character, they are boring AF. I am suggesting simple things: eg. name, age, physical features, occupation and family relationships. whatever you think will be helpful.

.№.2: Music?

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Block out the distractions, I find best to do so with music. Even as I write this I have my headphones on and rock music blasting through them, music can help boost your mood or even lower it to match an atmosphere in your writing. create a playlist of the best songs or a playlist for each mood.

.№.3: Comfort

Get comfortable, whether it is sitting at a desk with everything around you neat and tidy, or lying on your bed or the floor with things scattered around, you work best when comfortable and interruptions are minimized. Get a warm drink or something you enjoy, snuggle up in a blanket. I personally love sitting at my desk blanket on the lap, warm coffee or tea on the coaster next to my laptop and everything set out perfectly. by increasing your comfort you have less chance of getting up and down to go do other things just to escape your discomfort.

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.№.4: write… even when you don't feel like it

You may feel tired, sad or even too happy to write, but people tend to forget we bring out our creative genius from our few things:

. Observing people and their motivations

. Creative uses of language and language techniques

. Emotions and empathy

My notebooks- Tayla Fawcett

.№.5: lyrics, lists or quotes?

Incredibly helpful to me, I love making lists of things eg. possible events, new characters, hints, ideas, quotes etc. I have several notebooks (probably too many) filled with quotes and tasks. it’s always good to get ideas down, set tasks or goals or word counts to reach and then reward yourself after, push yourself to reach new goals or succeed your already set goals.

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May 21

I’m impressive with how motivated your sister is.

I’m so impressed with how you’ve been coping so amazingly well.

it’s commercial business.

tendency.

I prefer having fixed schedule, regular salary, regular routine. I get paid regularly without missing, and I can take days off whenever I want.

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Microsoft Teams and Cisco Webex Teams: bridging the gap

Messaging interoperability: Microsoft Teams and Cisco Webex Teams

This is a guest post provided by Md Mohsin Ansari, Digital Marketing Analyst at Troop Messenger. Troop Messenger is a business messenger that is spreading its wings across all industries by bringing all the internal communication in one place. Connect with him on Linkedin here.

Messaging interoperability: Microsoft Teams and Cisco Webex Teams

To serve business needs, enterprises often end up installing custom software or using multiple tools to fulfill requirements. Many tools offer freedom to avail distinct features, but accessing those features from different resources can be a daunting task. That’s where the interoperability makes sense.

When two or more applications interoperate, they offer users to have access to all features. The co-existence of two tools not only provides an extensive list of functionalities but also makes the workplace productivity, and the business process twice as efficient.

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Why Mass Production Saves Time, and How You Can Use it in Your Daily Life

When you are making a shopping list, you may write some random items down such as apples, sour cream, milk, chicken, and peanut butter. You won’t write down the specifics, such as honey crisp apples, a gallon of 2% milk, or Jiffs crunchy peanut butter. Your brain usually remembers what brand and size you want, so it’s easier and faster to write down the basic category of each item instead of writing down the specific details.

People think in categories. If you are multi-tasking, the chances are that you are wasting time. It is better for you to focus in on one category at a time instead of trying to keep up with multiple.

Mass production works well for us humans since we work and think best when we focus on the task at hand. Below is a story of how a grocery company I worked at had split a work day in half by using mass production. At the end, I will also share how you can add this in your daily life.

Bouquet Mass Production

When I was working in the floral department in a grocery store, I would occasionally have to go to the company’s warehouse and help mass produce bouquets for all the stores. We sold many bouquets at each location, and it was easier to set aside a day where a few associates were sent to make these bouquets without any distractions. I was one of those lucky associates, and I had a special job on those days that no one else had.

My job was to oversee the quality, wrapping, and pricing of the bouquets. I also was in charge of putting the right amounts of bouquets aside for each store.

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A Quick Note on Change

Imagine life only six months from now. There are so many things that can change, but also a lot that can stay the same.

External forces are constantly causing a change in our life. The majority of the time we can’t control them. But one thing we can do is control how we respond to them and how they affect us.

Regardless of what happens to us, in six months time, we can find ourselves in a much better place than we are right now, solely depending on the actions we take. In the same amount of time, we can end up in the same place or much worse. The decision is ours. When and where we want to be.

A lot can happen over the course of a couple of months, even in a day. Now imagine what can happen over the course of a couple of years.

A lot can happen, but that doesn’t mean it always does.

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Nicely done, Anna!

Original author: Keith Horton

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The 6 Time Management Tips for Mothers Nobody Talks About

The baby brain is real. I have found myself asking my husband if he had seen my sunglasses, also when I was wearing them, and I left the house in a rush just to come back 10 minutes later to pick up my phone. I also forgot to buy nappies, to show up to a medical check-up, and to follow up on an email. A friend of mine forgot the kid strapped in the car seat while she went out to do some groceries.

Other things that I have been struggling with as a mother and when dealing with other mothers is the short attention span, the hypersensitivity to external factors (ex: crying of a baby somewhere else in the universe), and those moments where you wish you were in bed for a full week instead of sharing the third coffee of the day with another human being.

Baby brain creeps in slowly and a few months down the track we hear ourselves saying “What was I talking about?” more than 3 times in the same 10 minutes conversation

For a very long time, baby brain has been dismissed as nothing more than an old wives’ tale, but recently scientist have shown it does exist: “an intriguing study published last year showed there were reductions in grey matter in the brains of pregnant women in regions known to be closely tied to processing social information, such as decoding infant facial expressions and establishing healthy bonding between mum and baby” (Sasha Davies). To the changes of the brain that happen during pregnancy, we also need to add sleep deprivation and the fact that now a mother has another person to take care of and be responsible for.

Long story short, baby brain is VERY real.

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A Little Thing Called Cron Jobs

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So every couple of weeks my friend come to me with an I absolutely must download. 90% of the time this app in question will be some sort of time management, personal planner, or reminders app — basically something along the lines of what the app store would categorize as a ‘productivity’ app. The conversation 90% of the time ends with me going to the app store out of curiosity, telling myself hey this might be useful and downloading the app…only to forget it and only find it hidden away in one of my app groups later. The thing is there’s so much in the way of these apps I often find myself forgetting about these apps just like I forget about the things I do. Which is why I use ‘cron jobs’ to give me a friendly reminder every so often.

So what exactly is a ‘cron job’? A cron job is basically a script that is setup to run on a specific time interval.

So how do I set one up? Well I these are pretty easy to write out in the language of your choice on pretty much any text editor.

How would you use a ‘cron job’ to send you a reminder? There’s a variety of ways you can do this. I personally like having my script send me a text message reminder, which is great because I always look at my text messages. You would usually host these scripts on a server to run, but to make your life easier you can use a service like https://www.setcronjob.com/ which can be used to host the cron job without the need setting up your own server.

What about sending the message? This can also be accomplished with the use of an API such as this one — >>http://textbelt.com/(we did say this would be easy after all) which would help your script send a free text message. Here’s a code snippet to help with that:

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How I Flunked My First Week On Medium

Not only had I forgotten to join the MPP, I’d made other mistakes too:

Mistake #1 — I hadn’t treated my writing as my own business.

If I’d been working as an employee, I’d have checked everything through because my job would be on the line.

But this was my venture and I’d been careless. It had cost me money. I don’t know how much and I don’t want to know.

It was totally my fault.

Boy, we needed that money. Badly. Even if it was only a few dollars. Because I’m an unemployed single mum.

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Rewilding Your Organization

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I’ve been writing recently about the rewilding work Angus and I do with couples helping them to return to the natural state of love and harmony in their relationships. But another area of work we do where rewilding is transformative is in organizations.

I believe it was in a David Whyte talk where I heard him ask the audience, “Do you know why you should leave your car window open a crack before going into the office?” His response was, “So the 99% of you that you leave in the car when you go into the office doesn’t die.”

No organization wants this for their employees, and many go to great lengths to take care of their people. Nonetheless, surveys continue to show abysmally low employee engagement and satisfaction rates. Unfortunately, corporate leaders often do not understand how to support their employees with engaging fully and creatively.

Even when corporate leaders see it is the pressure people put on themselves to do well that gets in the way of them being their best selves at work, they don’t know how to address this for fear of negatively impacting performance. This leaves the people who really care and want to do well at the mercy of their self-imposed pressure. Unfortunately, pressure and busyness are seen as the norm for working life. They are the cost of doing business. And even worse, stress can be worn as a badge of honor and grind can be seen as requirements for success. Working harder appears to be the one-size solution for improvement. Forget about family and friends, health, and rest and relaxation — this is business.

How can such a pressured approach truly be good for business when it does not bring out the best in people? How can a culture that honors depletion and puts people at risk for health issues and burnout positively impact the bottom line?

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Boost Employee Career Motivation through Traveling

Employee retention requires more than offering a competitive salary and manageable work responsibilities. In the modern day, prospective employees are seeking additional benefits like healthcare, retirement plans, and time off. In addition to these perks, some of our nation’s top CEOs are also offering travel incentives to their employees.

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Some of the leading companies in our country believe that travel benefits not only ensure they hire the best talent, but they also boosts work performance and office morale. For example, Steelhouse CEO, Mark Douglas, has found that happy employees are more productive and loyal. Because of this, he offers his employees $2,000 a year for travel. Each year, Basecamp, a popular web development company, puts together a list of 16 vacation packages that its employees get to choose from. CEO, Jason Fried, reports that these trips range from $4,000-$5,000 per employee.

5 Reasons to offer your employees travel incentives

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If you want your business to be an industry leader, keep your employees motivated by adding the benefit of travel to their work package. Whether you offer vacation time or plan a company-wide trip, you and your employees will reap the benefits travel has to offer. Keep reading for some of the top reasons you should offer travel incentives to your employees.

1. Improve employee loyalty

Ensure your employees stay with your company by offering travel incentives they can’t find elsewhere. This motivation to stay with your company will also improve their work performance and foster a healthy work environment.

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1 Baptist mission trip, 1 brothel, 1 Coca Cola and a great life lesson:

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I never intended to end up in a brothel. It wasn’t a key goal when preparing for my baptist missionary trip, but life has a habit of putting you in random places when you least expect it.

As soon as I walked in, hot, sticky and tired, I sensed all was not well. The waitresses looked friendly (surely to be expected in the hospitality industry), their skirt length was less than demure (it’s a hot country to be fair) but it just didn’t have the usual vibe of the cafes I’d frequented during my time in El Salvador. The waitresses seemed surprised by my presence and then … something strange happened.

The (all male) cliental were ushered away and out of the cafe, something which caused a storm of protest and which left just me in the ‘cafe’ as the sole customer. The ‘waitresses’ then gathered around me as I sat there drinking my coke. They kept asking me if there was anything else I might like and I kept assuring them:

“no thanks, I’m fine”

“really, it’s very kind of you but the coke is lovely: cold and fizzy as it should be and I’m happy with it”

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4 Clever Ways To Work Smarter, Not Harder

Create a schedule that you love

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Design your ideal weekly schedule and fill it with the things you love to do. Invite more productivity in your life with reasonable expectations of what you can accomplish — then, slowly, work your way up. Allocate your free time with purpose, so that at the end of the day, you aren’t left wondering where it all went. Even if you spend three hours doing nothing, be in control of those three hours. To help you do that, build a schedule that supports a healthy, balanced life of work and play. A schedule that supports you in becoming the best version of yourself.

For the majority of your day, your activities are decided for you — work, transit, study, chores. But, those in-between hours are what truly define the quality and direction of your life. Give them a purpose. Dedicate them to things that nourish your soul, benefit your mental health and help you work towards your goals.

Follow in someone’s footsteps

Somewhere in the world, someone’s living the life you’ve always dreamed of. Someone has accomplished all of the things that inspire you to work harder, acquired every element of the career you’ve always wanted. Find that person, study their path and aspire to it. This person doesn’t have to be a titan of your industry, or even among the most successful. But, their level of success should impress the hell out of you, and should serve as a vision of what’s possible in your life. They should serve as a reminder of what’s waiting for you at the peak of your journey, as a motivator to keep going when the going gets tough, just as they did.

Reach out to them for an opportunity to pick their brain, ask questions, maybe shadow them for a day. You’d be surprised by how many people are willing to make time for those who are just starting out. Because at one point in time, each and every one of them was just starting out themselves, and many successful people know how rewarding it feels to pay it forward.

Work smarter by following a path that has successfully led someone to a place where you want to be. If it feels right, don’t hesitate to change directions, forge a new path and make it your own. But when you feel lost, you can always follow the lead of those who came before you.

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The Motivation Myth: How High Achievers Really Set Themselves Up to Win | ~!PDF ~^EPub Jeff Haden

From Inc.com’s most popular columnist, a counterintuitive — but highly practical — guide to finding and maintaining the motivation to achieve great things.It’s comforting to imagine that superstars in their fields were just born better equipped than the rest of us. When a co-worker loses 20 pounds, or a friend runs a marathon while completing a huge project at work, we assume they have more grit, more willpower, more innate talent, and above all, more motivation to see their goals through.But that’s not at actually true, as popular Inc.com columnist Jeff Haden proves. “Motivation” as we know it is a myth. Motivation isn’t the special sauce that we require at the beginning of any major change. In fact, motivation is a result of process, not a cause. Understanding this will change the way you approach any obstacle or big goal.Haden shows us how to reframe our thinking about the relationship of motivation to success. He meets us at our level — at the beginning of any big goal we have for ……. MORE …… Visit link : http://ebooksdailynew.com/?book=0399563768
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Self-Reflection

Steps:

1. Identification

2. Planning

3. Implementation

4. Reflection

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Getting Back Up | Week 19, 2019

It is (almost) never easy admitting your mistakes, and this is one of the major ones that I have made this year. When I started this, I just wanted to improve my productivity in general. I usually try a lot of these ‘productivity booster’ techniques, but none had worked till then, and I wasn’t keeping my hopes for this as well. To my surprise, this weekly public journal did increase my productivity. So, what was the problem? The problem was that I hadn’t realized that yet.

I had gotten into a great rhythm of tracking my habits every week and was posting (fairly) regularly, but I missed maybe two weeks in a row, when I had my mid semester exams and the following week when I went to chill at home. Even though I tried to compensate for that by writing a journal for the two weeks in one. But the damage had already been done. I had lost my flow, and getting back up was getting harder every week. With me being super busy the next week with APOGEE and the week after that being very very sad �·�»‍♂️. The damage became (sort of) unrepairable. I had fallen into a slumber and couldn’t figure out how to get out of it.

It was only much later, during my finals, that I realised what was the reason of my great discipline at the start of the sem. Maybe, we learn from our mistakes, and this might be my turn to learn. My exams ended exactly last week and hard as it was, I tried to keep track of all of my habits once again. The habit matrix below, I think might be a little biased, but hey, it’s a start.

Week 19, 2019 | Habit Matrix

One great thing is that I am at one of the longest ever meditation streaks, 36 days. I have had a lot of streaks broken around the 30 day mark and I am determined to avoid that this time.

Original author: Madhur Wadhwa

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